Grief Diary #10: Milky Way Memories

Whenever I see a beautiful image of the night sky and the Milky Way, I remember that night in Utah with my ex, how we craned our necks up in the stillness of the…

Grief Diary #9: Men and Their Woes

A few years back, on a first date, one of my exes complained about his previous relationship. “She always compared me to other guys who made more money or drove better cars.”

“So, why didn’t…

Grief Diary #8: Circumstantial Friends

I used to have a habit of jumping into friendships without examining if there was an actual alignment of values. I mean, until about five years back, I was barely able to articulate my…

Grief Diary #7: Integrating People

I had my last coaching session with my longest standing client today. We worked together for three years, and I got to support him through both his parents’ deaths and a layoff, although for…

Grief Diary #5: How to Grieve

I once asked a therapist friend how one should or could grieve. “Do I just sit there and think about the loss?” I wasn’t sure if this was productive. I had learned as a…

Grief Diary #3: Grieving Longtime Friends

Have you ever been on a call with a friend and decided halfway through that you’re never having a long conversation with them again? It’s somewhat like a writer knowing where the story ends…

Grief Diary #2: Grieving My Past Versions

I once went on a date that the man insisted was a non-date. “Just a meeting,” he kept saying. A past version of me from just one year ago would have made this all…